Here Are 3 Evocative Coaching Strategies You Can Use With Your Clients to Help Them Find Their Own Answers and Move Toward Their Dreams
As heart-centered life coaches, we know that there is a power within all of us that’s far greater than any circumstance, situation or condition – and we aim to guide our clients in harnessing this power to create a life they truly love living.
This philosophy of encouraging clients to look within for the answers they seek is actually the basis of evocative coaching, a form of coaching that is highly effective for helping clients create the results they desire in life.
Perhaps you’re already aware of evocative coaching methods, and maybe you’re already using them with your coaching clients without even realizing it! Either way, it’s beneficial for all life coaches to have an understanding of evocative coaching principles, and how they can positively impact your clients’ results.
What is Evocative Coaching?
Evocative coaching is a form of heart-centered life coaching that supports your client in understanding that all of the answers they seek to move their life forward are within themselves.
The life coach’s role then, is to assist the client in connecting with and listening to their own inner wisdom as the basis of taking action toward their goals and dreams. As a coach, you assist your clients in becoming the architects of their own life.
3 Powerful Evocative Coaching Methods
Here are some evocative coaching methods that you can use in your coaching business to best serve your clients on their transformational journeys.
EVOCATIVE COACHING METHOD #1: Provide your clients with techniques for being present
The number one most important step in evocative coaching is to help your clients begin to recognize and tap into the power within themselves. One of the best ways to do this is to encourage them to live in the moment as much as possible.
Being present means living fully in the moment, without focusing on the past or future. And in being present, we can really tap into and listen to the wisdom that’s within ourselves, which is the source from which all change begins.
One technique you can use to encourage your clients to be more present in the moment is to ask them to pause and notice what they are noticing. In any given moment, what are they thinking or feeling?
All thoughts are either expansive or contractive, and when we we tune in and notice our thoughts, we always have the power to change them if we feel they’re not serving us. Changing our mindset is the very first step to changing our lives.
So encourage your clients to replace contractive, negative thoughts with expansive, positive, grateful ones when they find their inner voice speaking from a place or criticism, fear or doubt.
If your clients have a hard time repatterning their thoughts, you can encourage them to use a cue to pause and notice what they’re noticing. For example, I make it a point to notice what I’m noticing every time I touch a handle – a door handle, a purse handle, and so on.
Every time I touch a handle of any kind, it’s a mental note for me to become present and listen to my inner voice – what I say to myself internally. If it’s complaining or worrying or doubting, then I consciously replace the thought with a new one of gratitude, self love and possibility.
Remember to remind your clients that in order to achieve any dream, our energy must be a vibrational match to the results we desire, and the first step to doing this adopting a consistently expansive mindset.
EVOCATIVE COACHING METHOD #2: Assist clients in developing the faculty of their imagination
“Condition-based thinking” is the mindset that external conditions and factors beyond our control determine what happens (or doesn’t happen) in our life.
While of course some external factors influence our life, the challenge with condition-based thinking is that is assigns total power to these conditions over our lives, and removes our own agency.
“Brave thinking,” on the other hand, is the mindset that all things are possible that can be visualized first. Basically, if you can dream it, you can do it! You don’t ignore reality or outside challenges, you just says, “Where there’s a vision and a will, there’s a way.”
So to help your clients move from condition-based thinking to brave thinking, you can encourage them to develop their imagination, which is one of our six mental faculties (imagination, intuition, will, reason, memory, perception), and an absolute superpower when used correctly.
Everything in existence was created twice – once in someone’s imagination, and then in the physical world. The light bulb was a result of imagination. Cars were a result of imagination.
So the first step to creating results is to use our imagination to create vivid pictures of what we’d love our lives to look like, and then to “step inside this vision” and try on what it would feel like.
I do an activity at my three-day signature event, DreamBuilder® LIVE, called “time machine” that involves mentally stepping into a time machine and then telling a partner all about your life three years from now in the present tense.
You can do this activity with your coaching clients and encourage them to notice how empowering it feels to be “living” their dream life!
EVOCATIVE COACHING METHOD #3: Ask your clients the right questions
Evocative life coaching does not involve giving advice or directives, but rather leading clients on an inward journey to find the answers themselves.
To do this involves asking clients the right questions ‒ and encouraging them to ask themselves the right questions – to think expansively.
One of the best evocative questions you can ask a client is: “What would you love?”
This question helps clients determine the sources or paths that give them life. Instead of asking them what they think they can or should be, do, have or give in this life, ask them what they would love. This will inspire much clearer visions of a life they desire!
Another highly motivating question to encourage your clients to ask is: “Where do you feel you need to get unstuck?”
Most people already know deep down what they need to do to become more motivated and move forward. But procrastination, fear and doubt often prohibit them from taking action toward doing so.
But when prompted to brainstorm and identify some actionable solutions to feeling stuck, clients begin to feel more driven, in control, and excited about moving forward.
Another one of my favorite questions to ask clients is: “What’s the gift in this experience for you?”
Clients will come to you with struggles and setbacks, because these are just a part of life. But there is always a gift – a silver lining or something to be grateful for – in every single experience, even ones that initially feel uncomfortable.
When prompted to identify and focus on the gift in any scenario, your clients will naturally think more expansively and will begin to see opportunities to take where they previously saw roadblocks.
The very best thing you can do to be an effective evocative life coach is to live by these principles yourself!
As coaches, i we don’t incorporate these evocative life coaching principles into our own lives, we will fall flat when trying to apply them in our life coaching sessions.
I suggest that every morning, to prepare for seeing clients, you also practice being present and then ask yourself a series of questions or creating a series of visions for how you would love your day to go.
This will automatically put you in an expansive mindset that you can bring to and model for your clients!
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