Here are four types of words to stop using (and what to use instead!) to help you generate the results you truly desire in your life.
Many clients seek out life coaches and mentors when they feel stuck in one or more areas of their life, desiring major change but not knowing quite how to make it happen.
One of the very best pieces of wisdom that you can provide to your clients is that every single one of us is far more powerful than any circumstance, situation or condition that we will ever find ourselves in!
Another important piece of wisdom to know is that the words we choose to speak are tremendously powerful in impacting our experience of our life, either positively or negatively.
The power of words is truly transformative!
When we say positive, empowering things to ourselves or to others, even if we don’t fully believe them at first, our subconscious interprets them as true…
And so we begin positively impacting our life and the lives of those around us almost immediately!
In this way, the words we choose have the power to shape our reality.
If you’re not currently experiencing the results in life that you truly desire, just by changing a few of the simple words and phrases you use on a daily basis, you can manifest amazing changes in your life!
Here are few of my favorite examples of certain words to use instead of others in order to empower ourselves to achieve our greatest dreams.
I highly encourage you to share these “language swaps” with your clients and witness their power to transform your clients’ experience of being alive!
LANGUAGE SWAP #1: Use “love to” instead of “should,” “must,” “need,” and “have to.”
In an attempt to be more disciplined and follow through with goals, we often adopt language that is demanding of ourselves, which can unintentionally cause pressure, shame and panic within us.
For example, saying “I need to exercise” makes exercise seem like a chore, a job or even a punishment, instead of an act of self care. It makes it sound like exercising is something we most definitely do not want to do, but should feel shame for not doing.
Words like “should,” “must,” “need,” and “have to” are constrictive words because they minimize our own power.
They suggest that we are at the mercy of certain obligations, instead of in charge of our choices.
But when we say, “I would love to exercise,” we are thinking expansively and embracing a goal with positivity and drive.
It’s much more motivating to do something we love, so we’re much more likely to follow through.
Always approach your goals from a place of love and speak this love loudly!
You’ll be much more motivated to tackle them!
LANGUAGE SWAP #2: Use “Investment” instead of “cost” or “price”
If you make mindful, informed purchases or purchases that bring you or others joy, then you are always investing your money in the greater good.
The same goes for investments of your time and energy.
When we get hung up on the “cost” or “price” of something, we are immediately operating from a mindset of scarcity – focusing on the deficit or sacrifice that will come with spending money, time or energy instead of on the benefits and gains.
This way of thinking can actually prevent us us from experiencing freedom and flow in our lives!
Investments, on the other hand, give back to us.
They fulfill us!
The more positive energy and gratitude we bring to our investments of time, money and energy, the greater abundance of time, money and energy we’ll attract!
So the next time you find yourself thinking about how much time, money, or energy you are “spending,” reframe your language to emphasize the benefits of what you’re investing in.
LANGUAGE SWAP #3: Use “create” or “manifest” instead of “luck”
Just as there is no such thing as a coincidence, there is really no such thing as luck.
Good timing can help you see and take advantage of opportunities in life more efficiently, but the fact is, those opportunities are not the result of luck, they’re a result of your choices!
Just like using the word “excitement” suggests that you didn’t expect a specific outcome, “luck” suggests that you didn’t have a hand in it.
Luck is an external force we believe happens to us, which minimizes the hard work and actions we take to create the results we desire.
Remember, we all have a power in us far greater than any circumstance, situation or condition, and with that power we can create or manifest the results we desire.
LANGUAGE SWAP #4: Use “plan” instead of “want”
When you say you want something, whether tangible or intangible, you are speaking from a place of lack, using the language of scarcity.
You are also suggesting that you believe what you desire might not be fulfilled, which means you are subconsciously and subtly setting yourself up for failure.
But when you replace “want” with “plan,” you are anticipating fulfillment and accomplishment.
You are telling yourself and the Universe that you believe in yourself, and this confidence in yourself will attract more opportunities and fuel your drive to take them.
Notice the difference in power between the follow sentences:
I want to buy a house
I plan to buy a house.
Notice which one has intention behind the sentence.
The first sentence emphasizes the house you don’t have, while the second suggests that you will buy one.
Similarly, try replacing the word “hope” in your daily usage with “expect” or “believe in.”
Much like “want,” the word “hope” suggests a desire that might not come true! Instead, if you expect a desired outcome, you are well on your way to creating it.
Your words become your actions and your actions shape your life
Clients who want to make major life changes but don’t know where to start or which actions to take can begin by re-patterning their language.
And it’s the easiest first step ever!
Swapping out constrictive words suggesting scarcity and doubt for empowering ones communicating expansion, faith and follow through takes only enough effort to stop, notice your word choice, and modify accordingly.
It takes only a matter of seconds.
In this way, recognizing the power of words is the first actionable step for your clients to take towards generating the results they’re seeking!